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Is it still cheating if I don't get caught?
1st ed.
Publication Information:
New York: Roaring Brook Press, 2009.
Physical Description:
160 p. : ill. ; 21 cm.
General Note:
Includes index of dilemmas.
The Basics. Life is like whac-a-mole -- Ethics : the art of doing the right thing -- The five principles ; Bringing the principles to life. "BFF!" Part 1 : Trash talk, promises, and cookies that, um, don't taste so good -- Winning on and off the field -- Meetups, hookups, and breakups -- Self-defense : bullies, pushers, and critics -- Getting tangled in the World Wide Web -- "Gotcha!" : spoiling, cheating, and taking advantage of another's mistake -- "BFF!" Part 2 : Messing up, fessing up, and forgiving your friends -- Minimum wage, minimum work? -- Good neighbors : being fair to classmates, business owners, and people you hardly know -- All about you : working too hard, dealing with grief, and listening to your conscience -- Is it cheating if I don't get caught? -- How to get a good night's sleep.
Reading Level:
1080 L Lexile


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It's not always easy to figure out what's right or wrong.

Your parents say one thing, your teachers say another, and your friends say something else entirely. Is it okay to tell a friend that her cookies taste awful? How should you respond when you see someone cheating on a test? And what's the big deal with downloading music for free?

Whether it's about the use of the internet (copying homework papers?) or sports (steroids?), friendship, family, school, or affairs of the heart, kids often find themselves asking: What's the right thing to do? With five simple and clear ethical principles as a foundation, and plenty of out-of-real-life dilemmas as examples, Dr. Bruce Weinstein offers answers and an approach to things that teens will find useful and reliable. With a good dose of common sense, this accessible life guide provesthat, while no one can give you all of the answers, Bruce Weinstein can give you the tools to make the best decisions you can -- anywhere, anytime.

Author Notes

BRUCE WEINSTEIN, Ph.D., is the professional ethicist known as The Ethics Guy®. He writes the ethics column for and lectures frequently to schools, businesses, and non-profit organizations. He lives in Brooklyn, NY.

Reviews 4

School Library Journal Review

Gr 8 Up-Young adults live in a world that offers them more choices, and more challenges, than they can possibly process without some confusion and frustration. Weinstein offers them some guidance in this accessible and practical guide. At the start of the book, he outlines five "life principles," encompassing simple ideas such as honesty and compassion, which he then applies to various hypothetical situations. The situations run the gamut from school issues, sports, friends, and dating to Internet use and drugs. The author creates realistic scenarios in which many kids may find themselves. His advice repeatedly refers back to the life principles, maintaining a consistent reference point for readers. He closes the book by encouraging them to find another person, whether it be a parent, another close adult, or a religious mentor, with whom to discuss their problems. The approachable tone of the book and the realistic scenarios make this a good choice for those teens who need some advice about how to deal with all that they face in their daily lives.-Carol Fazioli, Gwynedd-Mercy College, Gwynedd Valley, PA (c) Copyright 2010. Library Journals LLC, a wholly owned subsidiary of Media Source, Inc. No redistribution permitted.

Publisher's Weekly Review

Weinstein, aka the syndicated columnist "The Ethics Guy," addresses adolescent ethical dilemmas using a set of five "Life Principles" (Do No Harm, Make Things Better, Respect Others, Be Fair, Be Loving). Posing theoretical situations, Weinstein makes assessments based on the principles (buying student essays online violates the first principle by "diminishing your educational experience") and suggests an ethical course of action ("If this is the book you're assigned... this is what you have to tackle"). While readers will identify with many of the issues raised (trying marijuana, downloading music without paying, breaking up with someone by e-mail), some may find the approach didactic. Final art not seen by PW. Ages 10-14. (Apr.) (c) Copyright PWxyz, LLC. All rights reserved

Kirkus Review

Weinstein, a professional ethicist who writes a syndicated column as The Ethics Guy, offers an accessible guide to living an ethical life and sound, practical advice for applying ethical principles in a variety of scenarios. Following a concise introduction to the origins of the concepts of ethics and morality, Weinstein addresses three myths about ethics. He uses the example of Rosa Parks to illustrate the ethical myth of "if it's legal, it's right." The two other myths are "if everybody's doing it, it must be right," and "if it feels right, it is right." The author suggests adopting five ethical principles to serve as guidelines for doing the right thing: do no harm; make things better; respect others; be fair; be loving. After elaborating on the meaning of each of these "Life Principles," he illustrates applications in situations involving such issues as cheating, plagiarism, dating, lying to parents and friends, online social networking, peer pressure and shoplifting. This appealing guide speaks to the ethical dilemmas that all young people experience in their daily lives, and it should prompt considerable conversation and reflection. (Nonfiction. 10-14) Copyright Kirkus Reviews, used with permission.

Booklist Review

Weinstein, a professional ethicist, provides advice for teens based on five simple principles: do no harm, make things better, respect others, be fair, and be loving. Drawing examples from teen life, the nationally syndicated columnist offers specific questions, sample responses, and explanations of the ethical responses using his principles. His wide-ranging topics range from everyday matters of friendship, bullying, athletics, drugs, dating, social networking, and downloading intellectual property to larger issues such as dealing with grief. The text is direct and accessible, frequently broken up by black-and-white cartoons and changes in typography. He makes the important point that ethics require paying special heed to both oneself as well as others; it's a matter of balance. In an afterword, the author gives credit to earlier ethical theorists as well as a group of high-school students who contributed questions. Readers looking for a game plan for their lives will be well served by this clearly articulated approach.--Isaacs, Kathleen Copyright 2009 Booklist



Is It Still Cheating If I Don't Get Caught? Life Is Like Whac-A-Mole H ave you ever played Whac-A-Mole? The object of the game is simple: Take a rubber mallet and strike a mechanical mole as it pops up through one of many holes on the board. As soon as you hit one mole over the head and it retreats back into its hole, another one pops up. You hit that mole on the head, watch it retreat, and then prepare to smack a third one that will emerge from yet another hole. The object is to hit as many moles as you can in the time allotted. You win if you can hit all the moles before the bell rings. But that doesn't happen very often. After all, it's a carnival game--the odds are stacked against you. Life can sometimes feel like a carnival game--exhilarating but also unpredictable. You feel that you ought to be able to figure out how to handle whatever life throws at you, but problems seem to pop up at random. The truth is, without a game plan for tackling life's problems, you'll keep whacking away at them with little chance of success. Wouldn't it be better if life were problem-free? Not really. A world without any problems would be a dull place to live. After all, overcoming problems can make us better, stronger, and happier. Problems can force us to think of new ways to look at things, bring out qualities that we never knew we had, or prompt us to rethink the way we live our lives. Some of the toughest problems of all involve doing the right thing. When you ask yourself "What should I do?" you're really asking "What is the right thing to do?" Sometimes it's difficult to know what the right thing is, and sometimes, even when you know the right thing, it's hard to find the courage to do it. You may be afraid to talk about the problem with your family or friends, or worry that doing what you believe is right will make you unpopular. You may be concerned that a relationship will be damaged, no matter what you do. Since life isn't problem-free, the next best thing is to come up with a strategy for tackling dilemmas. It is simply not the case that all of the possible responses to a problem are equally good; there are better and worse ways of playing the game. In other words, just because you can do something doesn't mean you should do it. Read on and you'll learn five powerful principles that provide the foundation for doing the right thing anywhere, anytime you're faced with the question "What should I do?" The goal is not for you to become perfect, but to live life to the fullest and continue to be a person you can be proud of. Text copyright (c) 2009 by Bruce Weinstein Excerpted from Is It Still Cheating If I Don't Get Caught? by Bruce Weinstein All rights reserved by the original copyright owners. Excerpts are provided for display purposes only and may not be reproduced, reprinted or distributed without the written permission of the publisher.