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Title:
Becoming an ally to the gender-expansive child : a guide for parents and carers
ISBN:
9781785920516
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247 pages : illustration ; 23 cm.
Contents:
An invitation to become an ally -- All things gender -- Encountering the matrix -- Investing in the matrix -- Maintaining the matrix -- Unmasking the matrix -- Labels that help or hinder our children -- Approaching the matrix -- Dismantling the matrix -- Turning outwards -- Living as an ally -- Trusting the future.
Summary:
For anyone eager to understand their child's gender experience, or to learn how best to accept, support and protect them, this book will provide knowledge, reassurance and the confidence to do so.

When Anna Bianchi's grandchild asked, "Nanny, you do know I'm a girl, don't you?", Anna recognised this as a pivotal, and daunting, moment in their relationship. She knew that to answer her grandchild, who had been assigned male at birth, her own attitudes, assumptions and beliefs about gender would need to be examined. With reassuring honesty and openness, Anna draws deeply on four areas: her own experience, current research, interviews with children and their families, and a discussion of power, both in society and between children and adults. She shows how the inner journey of the adult inevitably impacts on the outer journey of the child and, given the significance of this, offers a step-by-step guide to becoming an ally to the gender-expansive child.
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When Anna Bianchi's grandchild asked, "Nanny, you do know I'm a girl, don't you?", Anna recognised this as a pivotal, and daunting, moment in their relationship. She knew that to answer her grandchild, who had been assigned male at birth, her own attitudes, assumptions and beliefs about gender would need to be examined.

With reassuring honesty and openness, Anna draws deeply on four areas: her own experience, current research, interviews with children and their families, and a discussion of power, both in society and between children and adults. She shows how the inner journey of the adult inevitably impacts on the outer journey of the child and, given the significance of this, offers a step-by-step guide to becoming an ally to the gender-expansive child.

For anyone eager to understand their child's gender experience, or to learn how best to accept, support and protect them, this book will provide knowledge, reassurance and the confidence to do so.


Author Notes

Anna Bianchi has a background in social work, personal development and training and facilitation work.


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School Library Journal Review

When author Bianchi's grandson Ruben was only four years old, his "clarity about his own gender path was apparent to anyone who knew him." Bianchi, who identifies as cisgender, writes, "My fears, my politics, my prejudice, assumptions and attitudes were all exposed, caught up, spun around and scattered by this experience." She then understood that she needed to "step down as the all-knowing adult and become an apprentice to life instead." The heartfelt and open text identifies four keys to becoming an ally to the gender-expansive child: listening, imagination, empathy, and courage. Bianchi walks a graceful path, seamlessly exploring her own experience, that of her grandchild, the politics of society, and the human conditions of fear and love. VERDICT In this powerful offering, the author weaves a combination of biography and parental advice into the important topics of safety, labels, bigotry, and forgiveness. Enthusiastically recommended for growing collections on transgender youth.-Julia M. Reffner, Richmond, VA © Copyright 2018. Library Journals LLC, a wholly owned subsidiary of Media Source, Inc. No redistribution permitted.


Library Journal Review

When author Bianchi's grandson Ruben was only four years old, his "clarity about his own gender path was apparent to anyone who knew him." Bianchi, who identifies as cisgender, writes, "My fears, my politics, my prejudice, assumptions and attitudes were all exposed, caught up, spun around and scattered by this experience." She then understood that she needed to "step down as the all-knowing adult and become an apprentice to life instead." The heartfelt and open text identifies four keys to becoming an ally to the gender-expansive child: listening, imagination, empathy, and courage. Bianchi walks a graceful path, seamlessly exploring her own experience, that of her grandchild, the politics of society, and the human conditions of fear and love. VERDICT In this powerful offering, the author weaves a combination of biography and parental advice into the important topics of safety, labels, bigotry, and forgiveness. Enthusiastically recommended for growing collections on transgender youth. © Copyright 2017. Library Journals LLC, a wholly owned subsidiary of Media Source, Inc. No redistribution permitted.


Table of Contents

Author's Notep. 7
Introductionp. 11
1 An Invitation to Become an Allyp. 24
2 All Things Genderp. 40
3 Encountering the Matrixp. 50
4 Investing in the Matrixp. 62
5 Maintaining the Matrixp. 80
6 Unmasking the Matrixp. 97
7 Labels That Help or Hinder Our Childrenp. 119
8 Approaching the Matrixp. 128
9 Dismantling the Matrixp. 151
10 Turning Outwardsp. 211
11 Living as an Allyp. 225
12 Trusting the Futurep. 231
Resourcesp. 237
Acknowledgementsp. 241
Indexp. 243