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Title:
Ask : building consent culture
ISBN:
9781944934255
Physical Description:
x, 212 pages ; 21 cm
Contents:
Foreword / Laurie Penny -- Introduction / Kitty Stryker -- In the bedroom. Sex and love when you hate yourself and don't have your shit together / JoEllen Notte -- The legal framework of consent is worthless / AV Flox -- The political is personal: a critique of what popular culture teaches about consent (and how to fix it) / Porscha Coleman -- In the school. Rehearsing consent culture: revolutionary playtime / Richard M. Wright -- The power of men teaching men / Shawn D. Taylor -- The green eggs and ham scam / Cherry Zonkowski -- In the jail. Responding to sexual harms in communities: who pays and who cares? / Alex Dymock -- The kids aren't all right: consent and our Miranda rights / Navarre Overton -- Just passing by / Roz Kaveney -- In the workplace. "Ethical porn" starts when you pay for it / Jiz Lee -- There's no rulebook for this / Tobi Hill-Meyer -- Service with a smile is not consent / Cameryn Moore -- In the home. Consent culture begins at home / Eve Rickert and Franklin Veaux -- Bodily autonomy for kids / Akilah S. Richards -- To keep a roof over my head, I consented to delaying my transition / Laura Kate Dale -- In the hospital. Giving birth when black / Takeallah Rivera -- Fatphobia and consent: how social stigma mitigates fat women's autonomy / Virgie Tovar -- Wrestling with consent (and also other wrestlers) / Jetta Rae -- In the community. Games, role-playing, and consent / Kate Fractal -- Trouble, lies, and white fragility: tips for white people / Cinnamon Maxxine -- Sleeping with fishes: a skinny dip into sex parties / Zev Ubu Hoffman -- Sex is a life skill: sex ed for the neuroatypical / Sez Thomasin -- Afterword / Carol Queen.
Summary:
Have you ever heard the phrase "It's easier to ask forgiveness than permission?" Violating consent isn't limited to sexual relationships, and our discussions around consent shouldn't be, either. To resist rape culture, we need a consent culture--and one that is more than just reactionary. Left confined to intimate spaces, consent will atrophy as theory that is never put into practice. The multi-layered power disparities of today's world require a response sensitive to a wide range of lived experiences. In Ask, Kitty Stryker assembles a retinue of writers, journalists, and activists to examine how a cultural politic centered on consent can empower us outside the bedroom, whether it's at the doctor's office, interacting with law enforcement, or calling out financial abuse within radical communities. More than a collection of essays, Ask is a testimony and guide on the role that negated consent plays in our lives, examining how we can take those first steps to reclaim it from institutionalized power. --
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Have you ever heard the phrase "It's easier to ask forgiveness than permission?" Violating consent isn't limited to sexual relationships, and our discussions around consent shouldn't be, either. To resist rape culture, we need a consent culture--and one that is more than just reactionary. Left confined to intimate spaces, consent will atrophy as theory that is never put into practice. The multi-layered power disparities of today's world require a response sensitive to a wide range of lived experiences. In Ask , Kitty Stryker assembles a retinue of writers, journalists, and activists to examine how a cultural politic centered on consent can empower us outside the bedroom, whether it's at the doctor's office, interacting with law enforcement, or calling out financial abuse within radical communities. More than a collection of essays, Ask is a testimony and guide on the role that negated consent plays in our lives, examining how we can take those first steps to reclaim it from institutionalized power.


Author Notes

Kitty Stryker is a writer, activist, and authority on developing a consent culture in alternative communities. She is the founder of www.ConsentCulture.com, a hub for LGBT, kinky, and polyamorous folks looking for a sexcritical approach to relationships. Kitty also cofounded the artsy sexy party Kinky Salon London, as well as creating the award-winning Ladies High Tea & Pornography Society. She also created the San Francisco-based kink party Whippersnappers, and acted as head of cosplay for queer gaming convention GaymerX. Kitty tours internationally, speaking at universities and conferences about feminism, sex work, body positivity, queer politics, and more. She lives in Oakland, California, with her wife, boyfriend, and two cats, Foucault and Nietzsche.


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Library Journal Review

A vibrant treatise from the very first page, this radical collection provides a multifaceted view of consent as an essential concept in not only the bedroom but in the realms of politics, technology, education, and society overall. The slim text is surprisingly rich and contains a wealth of diverse contributors; essays are segmented into spheres including "In the Bedroom," "In the Home," and "In the Jail." Meditations range from AV Flox's critique of the inherent flaws in the U.S. legal system's punishment-based model and static idea of consent to Cherry Zonkowski's challenge of coercive educational authority in the classroom as a feminist teacher. Additional highlights include Navarre Overton's essay on the murky nature of the Miranda Rights, Takeallah Rivera's impassioned criticism of enforced Westernized birth practices, and Akilah S. Richards's piece on establishing boundaries and body autonomy with two young daughters. The essay portion closes with Sez Thomasin's poignant discussion of sexuality and neurodiversity, and a helpful resource list for readers interested in continuing the consent conversation rounds out the title's conclusion. VERDICT Thought-provoking from start to finish, this timely, critical text deserves a place in all nonfiction collections.-Ashleigh Williams, School Library Journal © Copyright 2017. Library Journals LLC, a wholly owned subsidiary of Media Source, Inc. No redistribution permitted.