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Save yourself
First edition.
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229 pages ; 23 cm
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"Cameron Esposito is on her way to becoming a household name, thanks to her unique brand of comedy that doesn't shy away from the issues women (and many men) face today. From sexism and sexuality to white male privilege and self acceptance, Cameron uses humor to break down the barriers that keep us from speaking openly about these topics. Cameron offers funny and insightful essays about everything from coming out (at a Catholic college where being gay can get you expelled) to how joining the circus can help you become a better comic (so much nudity) to accepting yourself for who you are--even if you're an awkward tween with an eyepatch (which Cameron was). Full of heart, humor, and cringe-worthy stories anyone who has gone through puberty can relate to, Cameron's debut collection is for that timid Catholic kid in all of us and the fearless stand up comic yearning to break free"--


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This "hilarious and honest" bestselling memoir from a rising comedy star tackles issues of gender, sexuality, feminism, and the Catholic childhood that prepared her for a career as an outspoken lesbian comedian (Abby Wambach).
Cameron Esposito wanted to be a priest and ended up a stand-up comic. Now she would like to tell the whole queer as hell story. Her story. Not the sidebar to a straight person's rebirth-she doesn't give a makeover or plan a wedding or get a couple back together. This isn't a queer tragedy. She doesn't die at the end of this book, having finally decided to kiss the girl. It's the sexy, honest, bumpy, and triumphant dyke's tale her younger, wasn't-allowed-to-watch-Ellen self needed to read. Because there was a long time when she thought she wouldn't make it. Not as a comic, but as a human.

SAVE YOURSELF is full of funny and insightful recollections about everything from coming out (at a Catholic college where sexual orientation wasn't in the nondiscrimination policy) to how joining the circus can help you become a better comic (so much nudity) to accepting yourself for who you are-even if you're, say, a bowl cut-sporting, bespectacled, gender-nonconforming child with an eye patch (which Cameron was). Packed with heart, humor, and cringeworthy stories anyone who has gone through puberty, fallen in love, started a career, or had period sex in Rome can relate to, Cameron's memoir is for that timid, fenced-in kid in all of us-and the fearless stand-up yearning to break free.


Author Notes

Cameron Esposito is a Los Angeles-based comic, actor, and writer. Cameron's career has spanned everything from big-budget films to Sundance indies to animation. She costarred in and cocreated the much-lauded Take My Wife , now on Starz, has written for the New York Times , and has appeared as herself on TV, podcasts, and web series alike. Cameron hosts a popular interview podcast, Queery with Cameron Esposito , and her recent hit comedy special, Rape Jokes, raised almost $100,000 for rape crisis intervention.

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Publisher's Weekly Review

Comedian Esposito, who costarred in and cocreated Starz's Take My Wife, delivers "the dyke's tale my younger self needed to read" in this powerful yet often lighthearted memoir of growing up gay in a devout Catholic home. A middle child in a loving Italian household in a Chicago suburb, Esposito was often mistaken for a boy and realized early on that her desires didn't align with the "proper" gender norms--she asked for Ken dolls rather than Barbies, and recklessly rode her bike. Her Catholic education intensified her discomfort with her body ("Tampons were a years-long struggle, since as a Catholic, you're not really supposed to root around down there?") and experimenting with boys as a teenager only underlined her desire for women. Finally, after coming out while a student at Boston College (a Catholic college whose "nondiscrimination policy did not include sexual orientation") she had an epiphany: "Shit, I think my Catholicism broke." Esposito is wildly funny and is particularly adept at finding humor in tough moments (when her religious mother asks if she's gay, there was "a pause so pregnant, it had to be induced and then given a C-section"). This entertaining and candid memoir of finding one's identity will resonate with readers doing the same. (Mar.)

Booklist Review

Esposito brings her distinctive and queer-focused brand of humor to the memoir, combining laugh-out-loud moments with somber reflections on gender, sexuality, religion, social power dynamics, and how to start the process of saving yourself. She details pivotal moments in this personal history, frequently through the lens of past relationships, and discusses her coming out experience, her painful but loving relationship with her family, her intense history with Catholicism, her longstanding and complicated dynamic with food, and how her career went from nothing to acclaimed stand-up comedian. Known in recent times for her marriage to and work with a fellow comedian, Esposito chooses to instead focus on her life leading up to her pivotal move to Los Angeles. From her dating the high school football star while mooning over her best friend to being an unapologetic queer celebrity, this hilarious and emotional memoir charts Esposito's growth personally, professionally, and spiritually. Those looking to learn more about this social justice-driven comedian will find the unflinching self-examination of a person ready to share something beyond her stand-up routine.