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This important and compassionate new book from the creator of the successful God Allows U-Turns series will help parents and grandparents of the many adult children who continue to make life painful for their loved ones.
Writing from firsthand experience, Allison identifies the lies that kept her, and ultimately her son in bondage--and how she overcame them. Additional real life stories from other parents are woven through the text.
A tough-love book to help readers cope with dysfunctional adult children, Setting Boundaries® with Your Adult Children will empower families by offering hope and healing through S.A.N.I.T.Y.--a six-step program to help parents regain control in their homes and in their lives.
S = STOP Enabling, STOP Blaming Yourself, and STOP the Flow of Money A = Assemble a Support Group N = Nip Excuses in the Bud I = Implement Rules/Boundaries T = Trust Your Instincts Y = Yield Everything to GodForeword by Carol Kent ( When I Lay My Isaac Down )
Author Notes
Allison Bottke is the award-winning author of the acclaimed Setting Boundaries® series, which includes Setting Boundaries with Your Adult Children, Setting Boundaries with Your Aging Parents, Setting Boundaries with Difficult People, Setting Boundaries with Food, Setting Boundaries for Women, and The Young Women's Guide to Setting Boundaries. She is the founder of the SANITY Support Group, an outreach based on the Setting Boundaries® series (more than 150,000 sold). Her other books include the God Answers Prayers series, and she is the founder and general editor of more than a dozen volumes in the popular God Allows U-Turns ® anthology. She has written or edited more than 30 nonfiction and fiction books, and is a frequent guest on national radio and TV programs. Allison lives in the Dallas/Fort Worth area.
www.settingboundariesbooks.com
Awards
Winner of the Selah Award for Best Book of the Year for Setting Boundaries with Food in 2013
Table of Contents
| Foreword | p. 9 |
| Why I Had to Write This Book | p. 13 |
| Part 1 The Parent as Enabler | |
| 1 "But I'm Only Trying to Help" | p. 27 |
| 2 Why We Enable, and Why We Must Stop | p. 41 |
| 3 Get Smart and Take Action! | p. 61 |
| 4 "But Deep Down He's Really a Good Kid" | p. 71 |
| 5 The Power of Love and Forgiveness | p. 85 |
| Part 2 The Six Steps to SANITY | |
| 6 "S"-STOP Your Own Negative Behavior | p. 101 |
| 7 "A"-ASSEMBLE a Support Group | p. 111 |
| 8 "N"-NIP Excuses in the Bud | p. 117 |
| 9 "I"-IMPLEMENT Rules and Boundaries | p. 127 |
| 10 "T"-TRUST Your Instincts | p. 137 |
| 11 "Y"-YIELD Everything to God | p. 143 |
| 12 Developing an Action Plan | p. 153 |
| 13 Considering the Consequences | p. 171 |
| 14 Other Vital Issues | p. 185 |
| When Drugs and/or Alcohol Are Involved | |
| When Your Child Is Disabled | |
| When Your Adult Child Is a College Student | |
| When Little Children Are Involved | |
| When Blended Families Come Together | |
| Epilogue | p. 199 |
| Resources | p. 209 |
| Notes | p. 213 |
