What is a caregiver anyway? -- Navigating past the freak-out -- Making emergency room visits and insanity mutually exclusive -- Doctors-- can't live with 'em, can't live without 'em -- How to turn even the crankiest nurses/aides/medical personnel into buddies -- When loved ones take on a different personality and you start wishing they'd disappear -- How to wait out waiting rooms -- The hospital room etiquette Miss Manners never told us about -- Who's the boss of me? -- Getting on the same page as that sister who drives you nuts (and other family matters) -- Who knew friends could be so-- unfriendly -- Does working mean you don't care or does caring mean you don't work -- The home health-care invasion -- Using the F word, as in "facility" -- Finding a shoulder-- or ten-- to lean on -- "Caregiver sleep" doesn't have to be an oxymoron -- The great escape-- taking a mental vacation -- Being a crybaby isn't necessarily a bad thing -- Sometimes laughter isn't the best medicine-- it's the only medicine -- Just breathe. Or meditate. Or both -- Who has time to cook a healthy meal? We do. -- The exercise conundrum -- Sex? Romance? Is anybody getting any? -- When to see a shrink -- "Spiritual care" isn't necessarily just for the spiritual -- Getting through the goodbye -- Yes, there are silver linings -- When caregiver becomes cargivee -- Famous last words.