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INTRODUCTION TO PART TWO In part 2, we're going to work together on twelve commonly stressful issues, including money, success, interpersonal conflict, weight loss, and more. As we go forward, it's helpful if you think of ActivInsight as a kind of exercise program. Instead of losing physical weight, though, you'll be losing mental weight. And instead of building physical flexibility, you're going to build your mental flexibility and resilience. In a physical exercise program, you don't do every exercise at once. The same applies here. The best way to get value from part 2 is to do one chapter at a time, pausing to integrate and reflect on each exercise. Try to do at least three chapters a week (though if you feel able to move faster, go ahead). We'll start with fairly easy topics and build to harder ones as we go along. It's important that you not skip ahead. The topics are arranged in order so that by the time we get to the harder topics, you're ready for them. Some people have breakthroughs from the very first worksheet, but for others the initial attempts can sometimes lead to a disappointing sense that what we're doing is just playing with words in our heads and justifying people's behaviors. This is not the case. Continuing with the sports analogy, think of the first time you tried to ride a bike and fell, or the first time you swung at a golf ball and missed completely. ActivInsight is a skill, and like any skill, some people take to it right away, but most need a little more time to feel that they're truly getting it. If you keep practicing and sincerely work through each topic in the pages ahead, the steps of ActivInsight will make more and more sense, you'll get better at them, and you'll soon notice profound changes taking place in your thought process and, even more important, in your life. We're going to prove that all the saber-toothed tigers or stressors in your life were never really out there. They were in here, in your head. But they don't look like tigers. Here is what they really look like for the typical stressed-out person: Stress is a by-product of contracted thoughts. You can't see these thoughts, but you can certainly feel them in your mind and in your body. They may seem to disappear when you exercise, have a drink, get a massage, or think positively, but they remain in place deeper in the mind. Like weeds cut just at the surface, their roots remain intact, so they soon reemerge. With ActivInsight, we go for the roots. In the chapters that follow, we're going to explore all the topics in that head above, using the same seven steps for each topic. If this seems repetitive, that's because it is. Every time you experience stress, your mind is doing the same thing--it's contracting away from reality in the same way. Consequently, every time you do ActivInsight, you reconnect your mind to reality in the same way. ActivInsight is repetitive by design. Give yourself time between worksheets so that you can refresh your energy and remind yourself of your goal--less stress, greater insight, and a happier life. For our first topic, we'll tackle something that isn't too threatening but is still stressful for millions of people around the world. Print out a worksheet, get a pen, and buckle your seat belt. We're heading into traffic. © 2010 Andrew J. Bernstein Excerpted from The Myth of Stress: Where Stress Really Comes from and How to Live a Happier and Healthier Life by Andrew Bernstein All rights reserved by the original copyright owners. Excerpts are provided for display purposes only and may not be reproduced, reprinted or distributed without the written permission of the publisher.