Introduction Your LGBT Family Companion | p. 1 |
How We See Our Relationships | p. 3 |
How This Book Can Help | p. 5 |
Using the Forms in This Book | p. 6 |
1 Defining Family: Basics of Marriage, Domestic Partnership, and More | p. 7 |
Denning Family | p. 9 |
The Rise (and Likely Fall) of Domestic Partnership | p. 10 |
Benefits for Domestic Partners | p. 20 |
Making It Legal, and the Key Ramifications of Marriage | p. 23 |
Prenuptial and Prepartnership Agreements | p. 25 |
Is Marriage (or Its Equivalent) Right for You? | p. 26 |
Special Issues When One Partner Is Transgender | p. 29 |
Adopting Your Partner | p. 32 |
Keeping Up With Legal Changes | p. 33 |
2 Money, Insurance, Name Changes, and Immigration issues | p. 35 |
Cash and Credit | p. 36 |
Insurance | p. 47 |
Name Changes | p. 50 |
Foreign Lovers: Visits and Immigration | p. 54 |
3 Renting a Home Together | p. 63 |
If a Landlord Discriminates Against You | p. 64 |
Sharing a Rental | p. 66 |
Sharing One Partner's Rented Home | p. 70 |
Renter's Insurance | p. 74 |
Moving On | p. 75 |
Public Benefits and Living Together | p. 76 |
4 I'm Mom, She's Mommy (or I'm Daddy, He's Papa) | p. 79 |
Legal Parents and the Second-Parent Trap | p. 80 |
Having a Child | p. 100 |
Adopting a Child | p. 118 |
Foster Parenting | p. 128 |
Becoming a Guardian | p. 132 |
Agreements With Teenagers | p. 138 |
5 Medical and Financial Matters: Delegating Authority | p. 141 |
Health Care Decisions | p. 144 |
Physician-Assisted Suicide | p. 156 |
Burial and Body Disposition | p. 157 |
Estate Planning Note | p. 160 |
Durable Power of Attorney for Finances | p. 161 |
6 Looking Ahead: Estate Planning | p. 177 |
Death and Living Together Contracts | p. 179 |
Wills | p. 180 |
A Sample Will | p. 192 |
Estate Planning Beyond a Will | p. 208 |
7 Living Together Contracts for Lesbian and Gay Couples | p. 229 |
Living Together Contracts Are Legal | p. 232 |
When You Need a Living Together Contract | p. 235 |
What to Include in a Living Together Contract | p. 236 |
Sample Living Together Contracts | p. 242 |
Contracts for Jointly Acquired Items | p. 247 |
Modifying Your Agreement | p. 267 |
Beware the Tax Man! | p. 267 |
8 Buying a Home Together (and Other Real Estate Ventures) | p. 269 |
Finding a House | p. 271 |
How Much House Can You Afford? | p. 274 |
Proceeding With Your Purchase | p. 282 |
Taking Title to Your New Home | p. 287 |
Contracts for Home Purchase and Ownership | p. 291 |
9 Going Separate Ways: Issues at the End of a Relationship | p. 317 |
Breaking Up: An Overview | p. 319 |
The Separation Process: What to Do | p. 319 |
Getting to Yes: How to Work Toward Resolution | p. 324 |
Ideas for Solving Some Common Problems | p. 335 |
Breaking Up When There's No Legal Relationship | p. 353 |
Dissolving a Same-Sex Marriage | p. 355 |
Dissolving a Straight Marriage | p. 369 |
Domestic Violence in Same-Sex Relationships | p. 374 |
10 Help Beyond the Book | p. 375 |
Hiring a Lawyer | p. 376 |
Doing Your Own Legal Research | p. 380 |
Legal Organizations | p. 385 |
A Appendix: Using the Interactive Forms | p. 389 |
Editing RTFs | p. 390 |
List of Forms | p. 391 |
Index | p. 393 |