Publisher's Weekly Review
New York Times columnist Gubar (Reading and Writing Cancer) references literary works to present a probing discussion of aging in this bittersweet memoir. At 70 and in remission from ovarian cancer, Gubar and her 87-year-old husband, Don Gray (both retired English professors at Indiana University), grappled with the prospect of moving from their home of 21 years to a more manageable condo. Gray was recovering from a torn tendon caused by a fall as Gubar set out to gather and ponder literary works addressing late-life love. Her intriguing text moves organically between two overriding topics: the first being domestic and concerning practical issues that arise as the devoted couple faces health issues (a nicked bowel during ovarian cancer surgery left Gubar with an ostomy bag), as well as concerns about their four adult children, grandchildren, and aging friends. The second is how "autumnal romance" is portrayed in works by Samuel Beckett, Marilynn Robinson, Gabriel Garcia Marquez, and others. Though Gubar presents a sampling of thorny examples (for instance, Updike's "late-life lechery" in his third "Rabbit" novel), she also unearths many that offer views of aging love as deep and inspiring. Gubar's wise, honest, and frequently humorous work ("the Latin word for old woman is anus," she notes) reveals that even amid the inevitable struggles of old age, personal and conjugal reinvention is not only quite possible, but also quite possibly lovely-both in literature, and in life. (Nov.) c Copyright PWxyz, LLC. All rights reserved.
Kirkus Review
A deeply personal and bittersweet paean to love "immune to the vicissitude of time."Feminist scholar Gubar's (Emeritus, English/Indiana Univ.; Reading and Writing Cancer: How Words Heal, 2016, etc.) memoir could be read as the third in a trilogy of books she's recently written exploring her fight against cancer and the roles art and love play in the battle. Her husband, Don, 17 years older than she and suffering from injuries and age-related problems, figured in earlier books, but he's front and center here. Complicating their time together was the difficult decision to leave their large house, Inverness, for an apartment. She borrows a term from Joyce Carol Oates, "bibliomemoir," to describe her quest to find "honest portraits" from fiction, poems, plays, and films that deal with the "tensions, tussles, and triumphs of my own later-life love affair." Gubar "integrate[s] literary interpretation with personal reflection" to fashion a "resounding retort to overwhelmingly negative valuations of aging." She sets off "searching for trail markings on an uncleared path" with Jenny Diski's "comedy of bad manners," Happily Ever After, and then discovers Helen Simonson's "sparkling" novel about loss, Major Pettigrew's Last Stand, which drew her into a "world unlike my own." Gubar also discusses Samuel Beckett's "unexpectedly funny" play Happy Days, a "geriatric farce intriguing in its portrayal of a later-life love affair like no other." Gabriel Garca Mrquez's "sprawling" Love in the Time of Cholera hits the "grand slam of late-life love tradition" with its portrait of love as "both a sickness and an anodyne." Offering particular support were poet and translator Jane Kenyon, Donald Hall's poems about his ill wife, and Marilynne Robinson's Gilead and Lila, which cost Gubar "half a box of tissues."In a book filled with wit, candor, and poignancy, the author concludes, "late-life love may heat at a lower temperature, but it bubbles and rises." Copyright Kirkus Reviews, used with permission.
Booklist Review
She was a divorcée, he a widower, yet these two lifelong friends and colleagues took a chance on committing to love in their senior years as husband and wife. Antique lovers is how Gubar (Memoir of a Debulked Woman, 2012) describes herself and her husband, Don, stressing both respect for the instituiton of marriage and the affection and passion many would find surprising, given their ages. How to put their relationship in context? It's easy to conjure a roadmap for the ardor of young love, but where are the touchstones for late-life love? As she and Don confront the vagaries of aging health problems, reduced mobility, transitioning to a home that requires less upkeep Gubar combs novels and poems, movies and plays to gain insight into the type of loving reflective of the bond she and Don enjoy. Author of the popular and insightful monthly New York Times column, Living with Cancer, and a respected feminist scholar, Gubar confronts life's most personal circumstances and her innermost fears and triumphs with wit, joy, sensitivity, and abundant honesty.--Carol Haggas Copyright 2018 Booklist
New York Review of Books Review
LATE-LIFE LOVE: A Memoir, by Susan Gubar. (Norton, $25.95.) The influential literary critic blends tales of her marriage, her cancer treatments and her husband's age-related infirmities with discussions of works whose meaning has changed for her over time; her rereadings confirm her talents as a teacher. MORTAL REPUBLIC: How Rome Fell Into Tyranny, by Edward J. Watts. (Basic, $32.) By the second century B.C., the proud Roman Republic had been brought low by inequity, corruption and populist politicians. Since America's founders modeled it on the Roman example, Watts, a historian, warns that it behooves us to understand what went wrong over 2,000 years ago. MUHAMMAD: Prophet of Peace Amid the Clash of Empires, by Juan Cole. (Nation, $28.) Cole offers an ambitiously revisionist picture of the father of Islam, replacing the idea of a militant leader with one of a peacemaker who wanted only to preach his monotheism freely and even sought "multicultural" harmony. INSURRECTO, by Gina Apostol. (Soho, $26.) Set in the Philippines, this novel raises provocative questions about history and hypocrisy as it follows two women with dueling modern-day film scripts about a colonial-era massacre. MY BROTHER'S HUSBAND: Volume 2, by Gengoroh Tagamé. Translated by Anne Ishii. (Pantheon, $25.95.) A sweet satire of Japan's taboo against gay marriage, this manga-style graphic novel is a sophisticated investigation into the nature of love, marriage, divorce, bereavement and nontraditional child-rearing. IN OUR MAD AND FURIOUS CITY, by Guy Gunaratne. (MCD/Farrar, Straus & Giroux, paper, $16.) Gunaratne's striking, Bookerlonglisted debut unfolds over a few restless days in a workingclass Northwest London suburb. Despite the rush of drama indicated by its title, the book should be read for its quieter details - Gunaratne, with a gift for characterization, presents the kinds of Londoners not often seen in contemporary fiction. THE DAY THE SUN DIED, by Yan Lianke. Translated by Carlos Rojas. (Grove, $26.) This brutal satirical novel takes place on a single night, when a plague of somnambulism unleashes a host of suppressed emotions among the inhabitants of a Chinese village. The ensuing chaos is promptly struck from the official record. TELL THEM OF BATTLES, KINGS, AND ELEPHANTS, by Mathias Énard. Translated by Charlotte Mandel. (New Directions, paper, $19.95.) In this intoxicating novel, set in 1506, Michelangelo sets up shop in Constantinople to design a bridge connecting Europe and Asia. SLEEP OF MEMORY, by Patrick Modiano. Translated by Mark Polizzotti. (Yale, $24.) The Nobel laureate's dreamlike novels summon elusive, half-forgotten episodes. Here, that means Paris in the '60s, love affairs, a flirtation with the occult and a shocking crime. The full reviews of these and other recent books are on the web: nytimes.com/books
