The power of the other : the startling effect other people have on you, from the boardroom to the bedroom and beyond-- and what to do about it

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Author:

Cloud, Henry author.

ISBN:

9780061777141

Edition:

First edition.

Physical Description:

240 pages ; 24 cm

General Note:

Includes index.

Contents:

The neglected truth -- The science of connection -- The four corners of connection -- Go to corner four -- The fuel for high performance -- Freedom and control -- Freedom requires responsibility -- Defanging the beast -- The right kind of push -- Bring the outside in -- The Bermuda Triangle of relationships -- Trust -- Nice guys don't finish last.

Subject Term:

Psychology, Industrial.

Interpersonal relations.

Interpersonal relations -- Psychological aspects.

Quality of work life -- Psychological aspects.

Leadership.

Summary:

Most leadership coaching focuses on helping leaders build their skills and knowledge and close performance gaps. These are necessary, but not sufficient. Using evidence from neuroscience and his work with leaders, Dr. Henry Cloud shows that the best performers draw on another vital resource: personal and professional relationships that fuel growth and help them surpass current limits. Popular wisdom suggests that we should not allow others to have power over us, but the reality is that they do, for better or for worse. Consider the boss who diminishes you through cutting remarks versus one who challenges you to get better. Or the colleague who always seeks the limelight versus the one who gives you the confidence to finish a difficult project. Or the spouse who is honest and supportive versus the one who resents your success. No matter how talented, intelligent, or experienced, the greatest leaders share one commonality: the power of the others in their lives. Combining engaging case studies, persuasive findings from cutting-edge brain research, and examples from his consulting practice, Dr. Cloud argues that whether you re a Navy SEAL or a corporate executive, outstanding performance depends on having the right kind of connections to fuel personal growth and minimize toxic associations and their effects. Presenting a dynamic model of the impact these different kinds of connections produce, Dr. Cloud shows readers how to get more from themselves by drawing on the strength and expertise of others. You don t have a choice whether or not others have power in your life, but you can choose what kinds of relationships you want.

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As a psychologist, leadership consultant, and coach, Dr. Henry Cloud's practice focuses on human performance, or how people can do better: Individuals, teams, and organizations. Conventional leadership coaches help leaders build skills and close performance gaps. This is important work, but, according to Dr. Cloud, it only takes you so far. Through engaging case studies and compelling findings from cutting-edge brain research, Dr. Cloud persuasively argues that what separates truly great leaders from merely good ones is how they leverage human relationships, in good times and bad times, to overcome their personal limitations. Whether you're a Navy SEAL or a corporate executive, outstanding performance depends on maximizing positive connections to fuel personal growth while minimizing toxic ones.

The truth is that other people do have power in your life. For better or worse. But what kind of power will you allow them to have Will they enhance your performance Or diminish it Consider the boss who squashes your new idea vs. the one who helps you reshape it; a coworker who gives you honest feedback vs. one who gossips behind your back; a colleague who seeks solace in partying rather than in confronting his insecurities; or a spouse who sets appropriate boundaries on work-life balance vs. one who silently resents your success Bad connections, good connections, or no connections at all-this is the power of "the other." Other people exert power at every step of your career and your life; they influence you as much as you influence them.

You can't master other people, but you can become a master at forming healthy and long-lasting connections that will help you surpass whatever limit you are currently experiencing, or will ever experience in the future. That's your choice.

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According to this well-intentioned but undernourished self-help manual from Cloud, a clinical psychologist and prolific author (Never Go Back), "The right kind of relationships wire us for resilience and success." He believes he has cracked the code of how some people are able to surpass limits and in the process become better, more fulfilled versions of themselves. Rather than acting as if only our own performance mattered, he writes, we need to accept the fact that others affect what we do. This leads to his theory of self-help through strongly connected relationships: finding them, forming them, nurturing them. Those relationships will formulate the basis for high performance, he writes, and it's essential to understand their power. Cloud walks readers through the "four corners" of connection, offering advice on how to achieve genuine connections. The emphasis on developing toughness, drive, and commitment is worthwhile, but the slim, repetitive content offers more pompom-waving than advice. Agent: Shannon Marven, Dupree/Miller & Associates. (May) © Copyright PWxyz, LLC. All rights reserved.

Chapter 1 The Neglected Truth	p. 1
Chapter 2 The Science of Connection	p. 11
Chapter 3 The Four Corners of Connection	p. 27
Chapter 4 Go to Corner Four	p. 51
Chapter 5 The Fuel for High Performance	p. 69
Chapter 6 Freedom and Control	p. 89
Chapter 7 Freedom Requires Responsibility	p. 103
Chapter 8 Defanging the Beast	p. 129
Chapter 9 The Right Kind of Push	p. 145
Chapter 10 Bringing the Outside In	p. 165
Chapter 11 The Bermuda Triangle of Relationships	p. 185
Chapter 12 Trust	p. 197
Conclusion: Nice Guys Don't Finish Last	p. 213
Acknowledgments	p. 219
Index	p. 221

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