Real talk about sex & consent : what every teen needs to know

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Real talk about sex & consent : what every teen needs to know

Author:

Bradshaw, Cheryl M., author.

ISBN:

9781684034499

9781544449302

Physical Description:

viii, 185 pages : illustrations ; 21 cm.

Series:

Instant help solutions series.

Contents:

Letter to parents and educators -- Consent: welcome to the conversation! -- Sex and you -- What is consent? -- Communicating with consent -- Applying the skills -- Some other things to know -- What to do when things go wrong -- Wrapping up.

Subject Term:

Sexual consent.

Sexual ethics for teenagers.

Teenagers -- Sexual behavior.

Sex instruction for teenagers.

Local Subject:

Teen nonfiction collection.

Summary:

Teens deserve clear, accurate information about sex and consent. Real Talk About Sex and Consent is a complete guide for teen readers with essential information about setting boundaries, coercion, reciprocity, how the body and brain respond to trauma, and communication. With this comprehensive road map, teen readers will learn how to make sexual decisions that honor their sense of values and cultivate happy, healthy, and emotionally supportive relationships throughout their lives.

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"A truly vital and nuanced guide that is as empowering as it is educational."

-- School Library Journal (starred review)

You deserve clear, accurate information about sexual consent! Let this honest and empowering book be your go-to guide.

Let's get real: Sex is complicated. Like, really complicated. And as a teen, you need trusted resources to help you navigate sexual issues without shame, guilt, or judgment. But if you're like many teens, you may not have someone in your life that you can talk to openly about complicated sexual situations, and what consent really means--and this information is crucial for your health, safety, and happiness.

Real Talk About Sex and Consent is a comprehensive guide with essential information about setting boundaries, coercion, reciprocity, and communication. You'll also find hard facts about sex and trauma, the effects of pornography and cultural expectations, and much more. With this book, you'll learn how to make sexual decisions that honor your sense of values and cultivate rewarding and emotionally supportive relationships throughout your life.

This book goes past simple definitions of sex and consent and explores the hidden pressures, misrepresented expectations, and realities of sex--and what to do about it all.

It's time to get informed and take control of your sexual self. This book will give you the tools you need to make decisions that are right for you.

Author Notes

Cheryl M. Bradshaw, MA, is a registered psychotherapist working in private practice, and author of How to Like Yourself-a self-esteem guide for teens-and The Resilience Workbook for Teens.

Reviews (2)

School Library Journal Review

Gr 8 Up--This comprehensive guide to the legal, emotional, social, and physical aspects of consent shows teens that this issue is much more complicated than just saying "yes" or "no." Bradshaw, who is a registered psychotherapist, focuses on creating healthy relationships that are safe and respectful, have boundaries, and involve enthusiastic consent. Readers are given the skills to communicate effectively and clearly. Bradshaw provides many examples of scenarios and scripts that depict what consent looks and sounds like. Aimed at all genders and all sexualities, chapters examine getting to know yourself and your desires, identities, and attractions; gendered stereotypes and dynamics; pornography, nudes, and sexting; laws regarding age, power dynamics, and the ability to consent; warning signals; solutions and approaches to conflict; factors that may affect consent; and how to recognize sexual assault and get help. Conversational, honest, and accessible, with an emphasis on consent as a complete way to approach intimacy, this resource is invaluable. Repetition and summaries drive home which aspects are involved in total consent. The text makes it clear that all people deserve respect and the ability to be in control while emphasizing that consent is an ongoing component of healthy, happy, safe, and respectful relationships. Back matter includes resources (books, videos, articles), sexual assault intervention training and programs, and where to find support. VERDICT A truly vital and nuanced guide that is as empowering as it is educational.--Amanda MacGregor, Parkview Elem. Sch., Rosemount, MN

Kirkus Review

This accessible book unravels the often confusing topics of sex and consent. Written in a casual tone directed at teens and 20-somethings, this volume covers all aspects of consent, including sexual and emotional awareness, societal influences, the law, what consent looks like, and what to do in the event of a sexual assault. Bradshaw takes the discussion beyond "no means no" and even "yes means yes" into the real world. She gives concrete examples, tools, and exercises that young people can apply to their lived experiences. She acknowledges the complicated feelings that can arise and the difficulty of dealing with rejection. She also gives a simplified explanation of the science behind our fight-or-flight response and why we sometimes appear to consent when we really want to run away screaming. This text is addressed to all genders and sexualities, though it does not hesitate to acknowledge and break down gendered pressures and stereotypes. It is not only targeted at theoretical targets of assault; it clearly explains that if you can't honor someone's boundaries, you are not ready to have sex. Despite a few awkward sentences and corny acronyms, this is an invaluable resource for readers wishing to learn more about these critical subjects. Everyone learning to navigate sexual relationships should read this manual for total consent. (additional resources, works cited) (Self-help. 13-adult) Copyright (c) Kirkus Reviews, used with permission.

Letter to Parents and Educators	p. vii
Consent: Welcome to the Conversation!	p. 1
1 Sex and You	p. 11
Sex: The Basics	p. 12
Who Are You! What Do You Want?	p. 13
Myths and Influences	p. 23
2 What Is Consent?	p. 47
Consent and the Law	p. 48
Total Consent: HOT SPICE	p. 52
3 Communicating with Consent	p. 61
What Consent Looks and Sounds Like	p. 62
Understanding Our Reactions	p. 70
4 Applying the Skills	p. 87
Boundaries and Saying No	p. 87
Dealing with Rejection: Getting Ready for "No"	p. 97
The Importance of Healthy Relationships	p. 104
Putting It All Together	p. 118
5 Some Other Things to Know	p. 137
Growing with Consent	p. 138
A Word About Alcohol and Drugs	p. 141
Safe Sex and Consent	p. 145
6 What to Do When Things Go Wrong	p. 151
Sexual Assault	p. 152
Recognizing Assault	p. 159
After an Assault	p. 164
Bystander Intervention	p. 170
Wrapping Up	p. 173
Acknowledgments	p. 177
Additional Resources	p. 179
Works Cited	p. 183

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